fly like a bird!

Bahá'í Gardens - a Hillside of Beauty

from israel21c.com:

The Bahai Gardens, on Mt. Carmel overlooking Haifa, are part of the Bahai World Center. Besides receiving Bahai pilgrims from around the world, many thousands of tourists visit yearly, to view the amazing gardens, fountains, and views down to Haifa Harbor. The gold-domed Shrine of the Bab, dedicated to Bahai's founder, can be seen from the 19 garden terraces.

if you can't change your fate...

... change your attitude:

from things we forget

the art of flattery

reading this article reminded me of the following words of 'Abdu'-Bahá:

To be silent concerning the faults of others, to pray for them, and to help them, through kindness, to correct their faults.
To look always at the good and not at the bad. If a man has ten good qualities and one bad one, to look at the ten and forget the one; and if a man has ten bad qualities and one good one, to look at the one and forget the ten.
(Dr. J.E. Esslemont, Baha'u'llah and the New Era, p. 82)

A study published recently in the Journal of Basic and Applied Social Psychology found that just under half of people who were asked to help out a colleague with a favour were willing to do so. However, if the colleague first gave the person a compliment before making the request, 79 per cent of people were willing to help. Interestingly the increase in help occurred regardless of how likeable the requester was. It was the requester demonstrating their liking for another by complimenting them that increased their persuasiveness.

Numerous other studies have consistently shown how effective it can be to tell others that you like them and to give genuine compliments. Waiters receive bigger tips after praising diners for their menu choice. Hair stylists get higher tips after telling clients how much they like their new hairdo. Moreover, the effects of compliments hold true even when people know that the flatterer has an ulterior motive. But the lesson is not to use false compliments as a universal, and rather blunt, instrument of persuasion. Instead it is to selectively look for genuinely likeable features in someone and tell them.

Perhaps the most underused place where compliments can be employed effectively is with the people we are least likely to compliment at all - those we dislike and find difficulty dealing with. Again the suggestion is not to lavish fake or bogus praise but instead to look for genuinely admirable features about such individuals - their strong work ethic, attention to detail or reliability. Doing so might mean the difference between successfully getting business done or not.

http://www.farnamstreetblog.com/the-art-of-flattery

consultation

Man must consult in all things for this will lead him to the depths of each problem and enable him to find the right solution.

(`Abdu'l-Bahá, The Compilation of Compilations, vol. I, Consultation)